A few months ago, I decided to buy myself a ring…that sounds a bit weird, I know. And at first glance, it could definitely pass as an engagement ring…which I’ve had a few people ask in a mixture of shock and excitement, if I was actually engaged. To their disappointment (not so much mine), I said no.
There were 2 main reasons why I decided to start wearing a ring:
This is dumb but I don’t care…Part of my reason was to keep people away from me while at the gym. It was getting a bit obnoxious and quite creepy with some of the things guys would say to me. SO the ring went on in hopes that it would deter the idiots…so far it’s working.
My main reason for the ring… Over the last year, I’ve put a large emphasis on myself and personal growth.
I went on Etsy in search of a ring with a Rose Quartz stone. I chose rose quartz because it represents universal love, encourages trust and harmony in relationships and unconditional love. When people think of love, they usually think of loving another person or thing. But in this case, we’re talking everything — romantic partnerships, friendships, career, family, peace, and the most important — Love for Oneself.
At the beginning of this journey, I was kind of looking at others as potential partners. Nothing wrong with that but I was giving time and energy to others, while ignoring the attention that I required for myself. So, I chose to step away from the idea of dating anyone and put a focus on becoming comfortable with being by myself, getting comfortable being alone, learning about, trusting, and being there for myself…just like one would do in a relationship with another.
I fully believe that in order for one to have a successful relationship – whether it be romantic, friends, career, etc. you NEED to have a solid relationship with yourself first.
Why a ring though?
I chose to get a ring because it’s something I see every day, it’s on my hand and I’m the type of person that plays with whatever may be on my hands / wrists. Everytime I touch it or look at it, it reminds me of why I wear it. Similar to an engagement ring – which represents commitment, love, and dedication, instead of it being towards another, it’s towards myself.
Another thing I thought about recently was wedding vows. Not marrying myself, BUT I am with myself 24/7, so I best be loving myself to this level. The traditional wedding vows say…
I am choosing to acknowledge myself and accept who I am. I’ll be there to support myself on the good days and the bad. No matter what my situation or how dark life gets, I will not give up on myself or the goals I’ve set for myself.
I’m choosing to always show up for myself, put myself and my health first. To love who I am and who I’m becoming and the journey that brings me there.
How do you remind yourself to love and care for you?