Last night, I had a fairly heavy conversation with my significant other about life. I wasn’t expecting the conversation at all and I tried to give my best advice, but in reality, there was only so much that I could say. The basis of the conversation was:
What is the point of life?
Why do we do what we do? Why are we on the path that we are on? Will we end up where we want to be in 10, 20, 30 years? Will it all be worth it? What if we don’t find our purpose? What if we find it too late?
Ultimately, it comes down to what we do today, our outlook on life’s many things, and how we choose to handle the obstacles in our path.
Everyone goes through this mini crisis at some point in their life and definitely more than once. More often than not, when shit gets tough, I ask myself if I am on the right path and if what I am doing now will be worth it 20 years from now. I worry that I won’t be in the spot that I have dreamed myself to be in in 20 years.
I believe that we, as human beings feel the need to always be busy, to have 5 things lined up ready to go, because if we don’t, we aren’t moving. The way I see it is when we keep ourselves excessively busy, we’re ignoring the reality and we continue to do so until we hit a moment of “what the f*ck am I doing with my life?”
I also believe that we lead much of our time with ‘what ifs’ and that mindset keeps us living in our past and fearing the unknown of the future.
I definitely don’t have the answer to his or my own questions when it comes to this topic. But what I have learned in my very long 23 years of life is that life is far better being experienced in the now, in the present moment. Not in the past where fear is built or in the future where anxiety brews. Let go of the expectations that society holds for us. Stop leading life with ‘what if’.
What we can do now, today, is to accept where we are at and define where we want to go. Define the life that is ideal, that is fulfilling in the best way that suits you. Ask if what is being done now is something to be proud of today, tomorrow, and 30 years from now.
We have a choice.
Every. Single. Day. As 2019 comes to a close, I challenge us to go into 2020 with no fear. To experience anything and everything. To stop making excuses, to stop asking 'what if'. Start Doing! | 
